My Blanken World

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Deployment curse…. September 28, 2012

Filed under: Broken/Repaired,Family,Homeschooling,Military,WTFr — blankenmom @ 8:33 pm
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I think we’ve discussed this here before, but at the current rate that my household is falling apart – it needs to be revisited!









Deployment curse is what happens to the folks left behind.  Usually in the form of broken wash machines (last deployment – fixed it myself thank you!), emergency room visits (also last deployment.  I’m much better now.)  Illnesses, deaths or various household disasters.

Ok, this is actually just life, but life seem’s to sneak up on us fast and hard once that ship/plane/tank/sub pulls out!







I’m usually able to handle most of these issues myself.  Most mil spouses are – you won’t last long if you’re a wuss!  Think of the first month of deployment as spouses “boot camp”. Anything and everything *will* go wrong that first month.  If you survive, you can stay in and have the “privilege” of staying a mil spouse.  You wash out – you go home….  I refuse to go home!!


In the first month of our last, long deployment the wash machine started leaking, the cat started peeing on *everything*, the pets all needed to go into the vet, our air mattress got a hole in it, our new mattress took 3 months to show up (I guess that wasn’t just the first month then?), the van started having “issues”, our cars got broken into…. twice, the mailbox knocked over, the front pavers tossed around and I ended up in the Urgent Care getting ON the field at soccer.


I’m sure there was more, but those are the highlights.


THIS time around:  The van lost all its brakes, we had to do massive cleaning after the last renters, the fridge broke, all three of the boys’ school laptops ceased working… the day before school, our old lady dog had a seizure and they found a “mass” while she was being observed, the first-born came down with pneumonia, and the big dog has developed a limp that may spell the end.


BUT – today was the last day of the first month…. I think we’re done.  I think.


On the lighter side of all this:  This is the first year or so the van has cost us money in repairs.  We have new renters already.  I fixed the fridge and all we lost was milk.  The boys’ old netbooks lasted a whole three years – which is amazing for those, even when they aren’t being abused by small gremlins!  Plus, we really enjoyed the extra week off while we were waiting for the new ones to show up.  The first-born got his meds today, so he should be all good by the time school starts again.


All-in-all, we’ve survived!  The first month is gone and over with!  And if there is a way to put a positive spin on the dreaded “Deployment curse” is that it helps keep your mind off of how unstable, dangerous and scary things are where your loved one is headed – especially as your grumbling over a puddle of cat pee thinking they got the good end of the deal!














Where did I put that? September 7, 2012

Filed under: Family,Random thoughts — blankenmom @ 12:25 am






As we loaded the last of the groceries into the car the other day I came to the firm and sad conclusion that I am no longer fun.  I’m quite sure I lost my fun somewhere between here and the east coast a few years ago, because that’s the last time I remember being fun.  I must have packed it up somewhere?

Somewhere along the line, between throw-up, food allergies, schoolwork, bills and moves, it got placed in a box for safe keeping to come out at a later date; only to be forgotten.





I know I was fun as a kid – I remember watching the polywogs swim in the wash machine.  That was AWESOME!

I know I was NOT fun as a 13-year-old.  We’ll leave that one alone.

I know I was a blast as a high schooler – I was the only one with my own car, job and money.

I know I was a fun wife – I’ve got four kiddo’s to prove it. *wink*

I know I was fun when my kiddos were little – Who else does “Paint day” like the blanken-family!


When did I become the mom that gives evil looks?  That sighs at everything?  That can’t wait for her kids to go to bed instead of having a stay-up night on a weekday?  That makes tents with blankets and considers ketchup a veggie?  Who made schoolwork fun and put up hammocks for beds under a giant parachute in their bedroom!





I am determined to find that box and get it unpacked!  I want to find that crazy girl again!  I want to roller blade through the living room again, put tape on the dogs feet, laugh about the fake flies in the ice cubes and attempt to make baked items that never turn out right.

I want to remember, as my oldest stated “When you have to wait to get home to eat your candy – the drive takes FOREVER!”  (It’s true too you know!) 

Somewhere in the back of my garage is a box marked “silliness/goofiness/happiness/FUN” and if it takes me forever, I’m going to find that box and be that girl again.

So if anyone has seen my fun – please let me know, my family will pay handsomely for it!




17th September 1, 2012

Filed under: Hubby,Navy,Random thoughts — blankenmom @ 12:08 am
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Before my dentist man left we managed to fit our anniversary in.  It was our 17th this year.  Not monumental, but since we missed last years this one was special, for us at least.


We did the usual, dinner and a movie.  We even dressed up!  (Don’t tell anyone, but I even wore a skirt!)


Our usual dates consist of sneaking off to the nearest fast food joint for 30 minutes and discussing the latest matters while little ears aren’t prying.


We went out to a fancy restaurant.  I don’t think we’ve ever been to one so nice actually?  Wine was brought to the table as soon as we were sat.  Everything was infused with something.  Most of the menu we couldn’t pronounce.  And once we pointed to what we wanted to order for the waitress, we just sat….

… a few words here and there.  Something about the day that made us laugh.


After a great dinner that ended with bacon infused gelato….. mmmm -bacon!   We headed off to the movies….

… only a few words here and there.  Laughing about the directions “Garmin” gives us.


I don’t do girly movies – we watched The Expendables 2.  My kind of movie!  My dentist man surprised me with those new special seats that “rumble” with the action.  Very entertaining! 

After our laughter on the way out at the tacky lines, the great action and the three guys behind us that would laugh so hard at all the gruesome parts, we got into the car and it was so quiet all the way home….

… just a few words.  A look, a smile.  So quiet.


Maybe it was the upcoming deployment or the excitement of the day.  But I think it had more to do with our growing years together.  We started dating when we were 17 and now 19 years later…. It’s not boring to not talk anymore, we already know most of what each other is thinking.  It’s so nice to just sit and be comfortable and to know the person next to you is thinking the same things, has the same concerns, laughs at the same jokes and wants the same things….

… I guess love really only needs a few words.