I’m diverging a bit here, so follow me down my minds rabbit trail if you will please.
I was strolling through Pinterest, when I get to one pin full of dental shirts. *thank you dentist man for your profession invading my pinterest, fb and every other feed, I hope you get sewing supplies suggested* Very cute shirts too mind you. Things like “This dentist is the greatest dad”, or “This hygienist has the greatest patients”. Me, being me, seeing several comments, made me wonder what would make you comment on something like that? People saying “Ooh how cute?” or, “That would be great for so-and-so!”?
No. No, to my surprise it was someone commenting on how misogynistic it was that this company would assume that the dentist was male, and the hygienists and assistants were female. (I won’t even go into the statistics on the fact that yes, majority at this time are male and yes, majority are women….) A quick click on the product page showed that every item (short of the mom/dad shirts) were unisex. Meaning, that both male and female dentists were represented, and both male and female hygienists or assistants could have the greatest patients. After pointing this out, a barrage of comments pointing out that the company shouldn’t assume that a male is the dentist and shouldn’t advertise that way, as though they had unlimited space to advertise every product available. And that men are the reason why most women choose to be hygienist or assistants over dentists.
My argument that more women than men are now becoming doctors only infuriated the commentators more. However, I didn’t have time for this… I have a life. However, my mind would drift back while doing random jobs around the house.
In the U.S., I can get any degree I choose. I can go into any profession, even to the front lines of battle. If I choose to hold the same hours as a man, I can make the same amount of money. I can own a gun. Vote. Leave my house whenever I want without an escort. Drive. Buy a house. Choose to have, or not have children. To get married. What ever the heck I want!
The only time I’ve ever had a man tell me I couldn’t do something, was at Home Depot. I’m not sure what’s up with Home Depot? Anytime I got a wild hair up my backside, it was a bunch of guys telling me to do it.
I’ve only had a few women tell me the same thing. Usually being told “You don’t look right for this position.”, “You aren’t smart enough.”, “You’re too small.”, “Girls don’t do that.”, “Why would you want to do that?”, the lovely “Don’t you have a husband for that?”, or “Wouldn’t you rather….?”.
Or in this case, it’s blamed on men. “Men won’t let you.” “They don’t become hygienists, assistants or nurses because they’ve been told it’s not ‘manly’, whatever that means?” What does that say to those male nurses that have been working on my son’s arm? Or the male assistants my husband works with in the Navy? How misandrist of you! (I want brownie points for that new word btw!)
Not falling for that here in the U.S. or any other first-world nation in 2016! Or, even since I was a child and Sesame Street showed women as doctors, police officers, CEO’s, business owners or astronauts. Nope. Whatever you choose to become, it’s your choice, no one else’s.
Mind you, I was pondering this while researching underwater welding careers. And while rewiring the heater in my van, replacing it’s door handle, wiring in new lights into my kitchen and researching some new tools for the counters I’m about to build. All with the help of men who were cheering me on, coaching and pushing me to try something I hadn’t done before. “Of course you can do it? Why couldn’t you?” The words of a misogynistic patriarchs telling me what roll I should play in society? Or words I’ve been hearing from my society for the last 40 years?
Unless you can actually point to a resume, college application or some form of documentation that says you were denied, or steered from a certain career, merely because of your ta-ta’s, I’m not falling for this evil patriarch stuff. What you choose to do, in our current first-world society, is all on you babe!
And me telling you that there is no hidden misogynistic patriarchy holding you to a certain position in today’s society is not tearing you down, it’s opening your eyes to all the things you are capable of.
You, are the holders of society – You hold society in your bellies. You hold it at your breast. You hold it on your lap. You hold it on your shoulders. You hold it in your arms. You hold it in your hearts. You shape the world around you. Not men. You. A woman.
You aren’t being held down by men. You’re being held down by your excuses.
You really want to rock the world – go volunteer to help some girls in the third-world. Now *that* would really be changing something!