Our second-born, also known as Michael, turned 18 today. We wouldn’t dare say it’s been a breeze, because he was definitely our challenge. The one where if it was going to go wrong, it went wrong… and yet, he still came out amazing!
From about the 5th month of pregnancy I knew something wasn’t right? Born two weeks late but induced due to a slowing heart rate, he was literally pulled out by our midwife because his shoulders had become stuck. He was already challenging us! After delivery though, his little heart came back twice as strong.
He was quiet and strong.
After a couple of weeks with this perfect little bundle, his jaundice set in. “Pumpkin” the nurses called him when we headed back to the hospital for the light therapy. His bilirubin count was so high they nearly took him in an ambulance. That’s when the quiet ended, but the strong didn’t.
For over four years this little man cried. Cried like his fingers had been closed in a car door. We went to doctor after doctor, all the while being told he was just fine, it was just who he was. Four years of no sleep. Four years of rashes everywhere. Listening to screaming for the majority of the day. Four years of having strangers whisper, or tell me straight to my face what a terrible parent I was because of his screaming. Four years of not knowing how to fix his hurting.
But when he did stop, if only for an hour or so, he was so happy, and so beautiful.
After four years, we decided to take him to a therapist to see if they could help. “Take him to a naturopath if the doctors won’t listen!”, he said.
Best advice ever!
Our son was allergic to several foods – corn, wheat (gluten) and dairy (casein). All of his favorites of course! After cutting those out, we were still left with a kid who only knew how to get angry, but could now at least function. Four years of therapy to correct the damage that had been done and all the time lost, and some very caring church leaders, coaches, naturopaths, family and friends who stuck it out with us, he was a completely different kid.
Always challenging. Always pushing. Always trying something new. I couldn’t imagine what life would have been like without him, his energy, his mischievous giggle from the other room and the lessons he brought with him. Still strong, sometimes quiet. Always a challenge.
Scary delivery, jaundice, food allergies, night terrors, stitches, multiple goose-eggs, Poison Ivy, two broken arms, and none of it slowed him down!
Yes, he still has his allergies, albeit less intense now. Yes, he manages quite well with them. Yes, it’s changed everything in our life, mostly for the better. Not so much for out pocket book, but definitely for our bodies. And I am thankful for that!
Our computer nerd through and through, he’s graduating high school with a certificate in Computer Technology, and is about to leave home for a new adventure. I’m sure however, we’ll see him grocery shopping our pantry and finding his way home for the wash machine. This strong willed, energetic, enthusiastic, kid is ready for the world… I hope it’s ready for him because he doesn’t knock down easily!